Stephen Covey says compromise is for chumps
November 10, 2011
If there were a man who could boldly claim to have written a book that can help solve “Life’s Most Difficult Problems,” it would be Stephen R. Covey. Covey came onto the scene after writing The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People in 1989.
Synergy is not the same thing as compromise. In a compromise, one plus one equals one and a half at best. Everybody loses something. Synergy is not just resolving a conflict. When we get to synergy, we transcend the conflict. We go beyond it to something new,something that excites everyone with fresh promise and transforms the future. Synergy is better than my or your way. It's our way.What Covey is advocating is much more than creating kumbaya moments. In the book he tells the story of his attending a meeting of the Leadership Group on U.S.-Muslim Engagement. The members were Christians, Jews, and Muslims seeking to build a better relationship between the U.S. and the world Islamic community. He wrote that at the first meeting, held on a Sunday, it was evident that everyone had an agenda and the atmosphere was cool. Covey asked them if he could teach them about the 3rd Alternative and they agreed. He reported that, by Tuesday night, the group arrived at a solution that the members of the group had never anticipated and that the people in the room were filled with love and respect for one another. Though the concepts in the 439-page book are more complex than this, the book does recommend two starting points: interacting with others using empathy and asking, "Would you be willing to look for a 3rd Alternative we haven't even thought of yet?" Do you remember before the economic downturn, employment experts were calling for widespread shortages of qualified workers in certain occupations? Even today, some employers have trouble filling more technology dependent manufacturing jobs. What if Congress had examined a 3rd Alternative of spending stimulus money on training unemployed workers to fill some of those positions, then training the chronically unemployed to move onto the first rung of the employment ladder to replace those moving up? What might the country's unemployment picture look like if that had happened? Covey is asking us to get beyond the stalemates that give eternal life to problems. He is urging us to walk in another's shoes and create solutions that are not the unsatisfying results of compromise, but rather the 3rd Alternative we can only create by tapping the synergy of working together to create some exciting solutions we haven't considered yet. Solutions that provide a much greater value and brighter future to each side. The 3rd Alternative is the blueprint for creating those solutions.